Trinity Alliance Church: We All Married Idiots: Three Things You'll Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can

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Trinity Alliance Church: We All Married Idiots: Three Things You'll Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can

Thank you Trinity Alliance in Rochester, NY, and Pastor Denes House for trusting me with a Sunday morning message. Great fun!

I love to speak!!! But the book is always better!!!

Splashes of Serenity to you!

We All Married Idiots Book Give Away!

Hi friends,

I'm on vacation and splashing in a lot of serenity!

Here's my splash for you:

BOOK GIVEAWAY!!! You could receive a free copy of We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can simply by commenting on Diane Markins' Women In High Def blog at http://dianemarkins.com/2012/07/elaine-w-miller/

Thanks Diane for the great interview on her Women In High Def radio show. You can listen at www.mykkim.com.

 Pretty excited to see what God is doing with my new book, We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can. I may share later, but the family is waiting for me to make a big splash with them today.

Off to the lake!

Congratulations to Marybeth Smith, the winner of We All Married Idiots! Enjoy, Marybeth, and thanks for the comment.

A Fairytale Wedding Doesn't Guarantee Happily Everafter

Welcome to our wedding! Forty-one years ago we stood at an altar with stars in our eyes believing the glow of those candles would last a lifetime.  We didn't realize it then, but both of us were idiots and one of us was a fool. There's a difference. You'll have to read We All Married Idiots to understand.

Our first years of marriage were rough. I packed Dan's bags numerous times because I expected him to fulfill needs that no man could fulfill. I wasn't happy so I thought, what many unhappily married people think, perhaps I married the wrong person. You see, I was concentrating on the three things I could never change about my marriage instead of focusing on the ten things I could.

I shudder thinking what my life would have been like had I succesfully thrown away this wonderful man I love with all my heart. I thank God for Dan and his commitment to me when I was a fool. Forty-one years later we glow with a love that lasted and we give thanks to God for allowing two idiots grow old together.

 Hold on to your marriage! Don't let go. It's worth fighting for.

There is joy in enduring love. Find out how to make it happen in We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can. Available at http://www.amazon.com/We-All-Married-Idiots-Marriage/dp/0984765522/

We All Married Idiots will encourage you to esteem your spouse as a gift to treasure not an idiot to tolerate. That's a splash of serenity every marriage needs!

We All Married Idiots Hits Marriage Where It Hurts

We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can is more than a humorous look at marriage. Idiots hits hard to heal hurting marriages.

My mailbox is full of unsolicited endorsements from readers. I'll let them tell you.

A letter from Rev. Floyd Finch to my husband: "Please tell Elaine that when we got her new book last week I took the time to read it from cover to cover. The title does not due the content justice! In my opinion this is truly a great word from God for these troubled times for marriage in America. I have already given a copy away and plan to purchase more. I pray this book will be read and the wisdom applied widely in the coming days."

From my niece, Judy, who gifted We All Married Idiots to a friend:

 Anonymous: "I found more in the pages than excellent writing. I found truth. I found advice that I wish I'd received years ago. I found hope and humor from someone who has 'been there and done that.' I found more insight into what is 'off' in my marriage that I have never before been able to put my finger on... and I found reminders about personal responsibility, accountablity, loyalty, and commitment. I found strength to carry on a bit longer, in hopes that God might use this particular 'idiot' to His glory. No matter where this road leads us, We All Married Idiots has become a part of the journey I'll cherish."

Anonymous: "We have laughed out loud and discussed areas we still need to work on. A personal THANK YOU for speaking to my husband's heart in words I was unable to convey!"

BOOK GIVEAWAY: With a staggering divorce rate, I know there are hurting couples out there. You can receive a free copy of Idiots for yourself or to give away by commenting on Jody Gates' blog today through next week at www.jodylynne.com

http://www.amazon.com/We-All-Married-Idiots-Marriage/dp/0984765522/  and Barnes & Noble sell We All Married Idiots for $6.03 or Kindle and Nook e-books for $4.95. That's a lot cheaper than a divorce!

Splash a marriage you know with serenity and give a gift that will change a family! Thanks to all for your love and encouragement. Keep those letters coming! They warm my heart and are a splash of serenity to me!

My Heart is Broken for Marriages

I'm passionate about marriage. Why else would I spend years writing two books on marriage? Especially since publishers are hesitant to print books on marriage because they say those books don't sell. How sad is that. Readers spend millions on books about wizards and vampires. With the divorce rate approximately 50 percent, it's tragic that people don't face the reality that marriages are in crisis.

I care about marriage and children and lives cut apart by the tragedy of divorce. Do you care? I think you do. No one wants to realize the pain of a broken home.

I wrote Splashes of Serenity: Bathtime Reflections for Drained Wives because I wanted to gently tell my marriage story and give hope to drained marriages. With my eyes shut tight and tears streaming I typed away (fearing in my heart that people would actually read my marriage confessions). When a book contract arrived I wailed! Oh no! What will people think of me? Turns out they didn't think less of me. They thanked me.

E-mails arrived telling  how Bathtime Reflections for Drained Wives had saved their marriages and encouraging me to write more on marriage and to go deeper.

We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can began to come together in my heart and brain and a manuscript was born.

What is the purpose of We All Married Idiots?

My heart is broken for marriages. If one family stays together because I dared to say we all married idiots, then my mission is accomplished. A family did stay together. In fact a couple of marriages took a new look at their attitudes towards their spouses after reading We All Married Idiots. Mission accomplished? Not quite.

With the staggering divorce rate of Christians and non-Christians it is easy to reason that too many give up too soon for too little reason. Unsatisfied with their first spouse, they enter a second marriage only to realize, Ugh, this person is an idiot too!

We All Married Idiots encourages couples to enjoy marriage as God intended. One where they esteem their beloved as a gift to treasure not as an idiot to tolerate.

My purpose for writing? Change that divorce statistic and help couples realize marriage as a sweet splash of serenity in their lives. My heart aches for all in pain-filled marriages. I hope you'll consider reading my books and giving them as gifts. Half your friends (and perhaps you) are considering divorce. The price of a book is not too much to pay to save a family.



Autographed copies of all of my books are available by contacting me. We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can sells as a print or e-book at Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/We-All-Married-Idiots-Marriage/dp/0984765522/ , Barnes & Noble, or your local bookstore. 

We All Married Idiots Changing the World View of Marriage

Today's the day!

We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can is officially released. I can hardly breath! My heart is filled with joy and praise and thanks to God for giving me the vision for this book, and for filling me with passion and words to change marriages around the world. I can say around the world because already Idiots is being read in Uruguay and El Salvador with a possible Spanish translation in the works.

Thank You God for making all of this possible. For giving the gift of marriage to us. For working in my heart and filling it with love for my husband. Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!

There are so many others to thank:

My husband for his commitment to God and to me and to our marriage vows.

My children for their sacrifice as mom buried herself in her office and bled out every word (at least it felt like that sometimes). You've heard the phrase haven't you? Writing is easy. You just open a vein and bleed!

My prayer team and writing friends and encouragers along the writing way. I couldn't do it without your holding my arms high in prayer and offering edits and tech help. Love you Diane Estrella and Lisa Buske for always being there right when I need you!

Eddie Jones and Lighthouse Publishing of the Carolinas (my publisher) and Diana Flegal of Hartline Literary Agency (my agent) who looked at my book proposal and laughed out loud and looked into my heart and believed in We All Married Idiots.

With tears I thank all of you for being a part of this process. May God use We All Married Idiots to change the way the world looks at marriages!

We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can officially released today. ISBN 978-0984765522, is available in print and e-book form from your local bookstore, online, or from the publisher at www.lighthousepublishingofthecarolinas.com. Autographed copies available for purchase from the author—moi!

May the book trailer below bring a smile and splash of serenity to your heart.

So Did We ALL Marry Idiots?

We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can releases in May. Thank you all who encouraged me on this journey. WOW—I appreciate you—every one.

To celebrate through the month of May—and to entice you to invest in your marriage—I will answer questions about me, my marriage, and the writing of Idiots. If you have any questions you would like answered, please make a comment and I'll give it a whirl. As well, I issue a BLOG TOUR ALERT! Many in the merry month of May will be blogging about me and Idiots. This should be fun!

Today's questions: What caused you to name a book, We All Married Idiots? Did we ALL marry idiots?

My answer: Years ago during an argument with my husband I thought, I must have been an idiot to marry this idiot! Then, I burst out laughing realizing that statement makes me an idiot too! Later I learned the word idiot is derived from the Greek word "common man." Well, aren't we all common man? In fact there was only one uncommon man. Jesus Christ. It is when we look to our spouses to fulfill needs that only Christ can fulfill, then husbands and wives become dissatisfied with their marriages.

So yes, we ALL do marry idiots; and so do our spouses.

Praying these posts bring a splash of serenity to your marriage. I believe reading We All Married Idiots could make that splash a flood! Sounds good to me!!!

Today We  All Married Idiots is available in print or as an ebook on line (http://www.amazon.com/We-All-Married-Idiots-Marriage/dp/0984765522/), at your local bookstore, or autographed copies can be purchased by emailing me (SplashesofSerenity@yahoo.com or through this website.


Enjoy the Idiots book trailer. It's a hoot!

"We All Married Idiots" Book Trailer

Presenting the book trailer for my new book We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can! It's a hoot.

We're five days until the official May 1, 2012 release of We All Married Idiots. There is much celebrating going on in my heart as numerous rave five-star reviews come in to Amazon and personal messages come to me of how Idiots is changing their marriages!

Will you join me in prayer that We All Married Idiots will indeed be a book that restores the state of matrimony the way God intended. Thank you, dear readers.

We All Married Idiots is now available as an ebook on Amazon kindle at http://www.amazon.com/We-All-Married-Idiots-ebook/dp/B007X65EGY/  I'm delighted to say the first person to buy an ebook was in Uruguay. A country with an 80 percent divorce rate. Woo Hoo! Way to go God!!!

God gave me this book, now I'm thrilled to see what He does with it.

Loving the daily Splashes of Serenity each day brings!

Loving each of you,

Hope for a Hurting Marriage

The endorsements are coming in from reviewers of We All Married Idiots: Three Things You'll Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can. I received this review today from Mary, a freelance writer, married 17 years with two children:

"My marriage has been crumbling around me for quite a while. In fact, I remember the last big fight we got into, and why it escalated into several days of cold silence. In a moment of anger, I called my husband an "idiot."

When I showed him the cover of Elaine W. Miller's book, We All Married Idiots, he laughed, and we agreed; 'Isn't that the truth...'

When I started reading though, the truth began to sink in and soon I wasn't laughing.

Elaine has touched upon so many truths in this book. With gentle wit, humor and wisdom, she points out where so many of us go wrong in a marriage, the ways we tear down with our hands what God means to be built up for His glory and our good. For young couples starting out, this book contains the secrets that will enable them to persevere, to run their race through the difficult years. For those married a long time, this book could be the key that unlocks the doors to a renewed passion as they remember just what it was about their spouse that brought them together.

I don't know if my marriage can be saved. Maybe I'd be idiotic to think it can, but Elaine's book has shone the bright light of truth on where we went wrong, and given me hope that maybe God can use a couple of idiots to bring glory to His name.

God bless.

-Mary"

Dear readers, please join my heart in prayer for Mary and her marriage: Heavenly Father, thank You for Mary and her honesty written with love. I pray in Jesus' Name, that You will heal her marriage. Lord, restore and renew the love they had for each other 17 years ago. We need a miracle, Lord, and I ask You to do it. Work in this marriage and heal hurts and fill Mary and her husband with love for each other and a determination to shine for You. I ask in Jesus' Name. Amen.

How can I pray for your marriage today? Just let me know. It would bring me joy to pray for you.

Splashes of Serenity and hope for marriages—that's my prayer.