Reading Books in the Bathtub can be Good for your Marriage

Cracked me up! 

 This morning a young mom thanked me publicly for the impact of  my book Splashes of Serenity: Bathtime Reflections for Drained Wives in her parent's marriage. She gave the book to her mom who loves baths. Her dad found her mom in the bathtub reading Drained Wives.  Observing that the first reflection was titled "My Wedding Began in a Church —  My Marriage Began in a Bathtub" he hopped into the tub with his wife!

Oh my!

The daughter reports that was the beginning of their reading Splashes of Serenity: Bathtime Reflections for Drained Wives every night together in the bathtub.

Well, I never intended that scenario when I wrote "My Marriage Began in a Bathtub." But, as my lawyer son would say, "It's legal!" And as my Pastor husband would say, "It's commanded!"

"The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time. . ." 1 Corinthians 7:4-5

 

 

A writer never knows how or WHERE her words will work in a life. This I do know: A good number of wives bought Splashes of Serenity: Bathtime Reflections for Drained Wives this morning.  I'm making no assumptions. I'm just sayin' there are some hubbies who might want to grab a towel! Wink!

 

You can order autographed copies of Splashes of Serenity: Bathtime Reflections for Drained Wives at the bookstore on this website.

 

 

 

I'm not sure this was a splash of serenity, but it sure was a splash that made me laugh!

 

 

Ten Ways to Glorify God in Your Marriage Bed

My book's title, We All Married Idiots, grabs people's attention. But the meat of this book is found in the sub-title, Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can.

Using the chapter titles of the Ten Things You Can, I hope you enjoy my spin on the ten ways you can put more love and more life into your love life. Have fun!



1. Loosen Up! Ask someone what first attracted them to their spouse and the answer may be, "Their smile." So loosen up! Laugh! Smile! Nothing says "Kiss me!" more than a happy face.

2. Strip Down! Oops! Did I say that? No. God did. In Hebrews 12:1 (NLT) He says,

 ". . . let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up."

We need to strip ourselves of sin that makes us unattractive to God and to our lovers. Sins like grumbling, lust, anger . . . all sin; you name it, keeps our bedrooms from being the happy place God intended.

3. Let Go! Thoughts of  laundry to do, Billy's homework isn't done, what should I make for dinner, problems at the office, all can occupy our minds during love making.  Don't bring your "to do" list to the bedroom. I guarantee while making love, you won't be able to do any of it. So, let go of these thoughts, concentrate on your lover, and enjoy!

4. Hold On! Your honey wants to get frisky, but your honey's character flaws turn you off. No one is perfect. Don't let thoughts of your sweetheart's failures enter your mind while making love. This is the time to hold on to the good and remember all the wonderful traits you love about your spouse.

5. Settle Down! Angry? Well, settle down. Anger has no place in your marriage bed.  Sexual abstinence will not solve your marital difficulties. Settle anger outside the bedroom walls because your bedroom is reserved as your play ground not your boxing ring.

6. Make Nice! Making nice is foreplay for the night ahead. No one wants to make love with a mate who makes mean. Remember, your lover desires to be treasured, not trampled.

7. Cheer On! If you want an example of cheering on your lover during lovemaking, read Solomon's Song of Songs. Wow! For example, "How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant." Song of Songs 1: 15-16. Words of affection and affirmation do much to cheer your honey on toward sexual pleasure.

8. Sit Tight! There really are times your beloved has a headache. Understanding and treating your love  tenderly during "headache" days will reap future rewards in your love life. Sit tight, be patient, and wait for a better day.

9. Give up! There will be days you won't desire your spouse, but your spouse desires you. I suggest you give up and ask God to give you passion for your husband or wife.  God says, "Husbands and wives should satisfy each other's sexual needs . . . Don't withhold yourselves from each other unless you agree to do so for a set time to devote yourselves to prayer. Then you should get back together. . . " 1 Corinthians 7: 3, 5. Prayer is an amazing power God gives to us. As we pray and invite God into our bedroom, asking The Almighty to help us respond to our lover's desires, we may be shocked at His answer. Prayer before and during lovemaking is the best foreplay of all. God wants to bless your marriage bed. He really does! Just ask Him.

10. Look up! The sparks aren't flying. There's no desire at all. Now what should you do? Look up! Ask God to help you and your beloved enjoy sexual intimacy as He planned for a husband and a wife. Loosen up, strip down, let go, hold on, settle down, make nice, cheer on, sit tight, give up, and look up. I suspect God will give you a marriage relationship better than you ever asked or imagined.

I have a passion for marriages, which is why I love promoting my book, We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can. Available wherever books are sold and on Amazon at http://www.amazon.com/We-All-Married-Idiots-Marriage/dp/0984765522/

Splashes of Serenity and joy prayed for you and your beloved!

Happy Valentine's Day!

Elaine and Dan

In the Beginning God Created . . . Sex

I love a blizzard! Others do too. Afterall, there will be a baby boom  in nine months because tonight all of the Northeast USA is snowed under. What could be more romantic than the snow falling, the streets closed, and no chance of anyone surprising you at your door.

Plus, we're less than a week from Valentine's Day. Love is in the air.

Praying your love life will Flourish this weekend and forever. Why not check out the Love and Sex issue of Flourish magazine. It's FREE at www.FlourishLiving.com.

 

 

Enjoy the article written by me to you in hopes the sexual intimacy between you and your spouse will flourish! It's all right to enjoy this time with your beloved because we know that in the beginning, God created . . . sex. God created the snow and He created us to enjoy our marriage. He blessed a married couple's intimate relationship. It's all right! Enjoy!!! Have fun!!!

 

"Then God blessed them [Adam and Eve] and said, 'Be fruitful and multiply. . ." Genesis 1:28

 



 

Snowflakes and love are in the air! May your love flourish as God blesses your marriage bed with Splashes of Serenity!