Wednesday, January 18, 2017

When a Husband Learns His Wife Has Cancer

The tears. The silent knowing that in a moment of a test result your life has changed forever.

I read that the majority of  patient's reaction to a cancer diagnosis is,
"Why me, God?" 

Well, why not me? I mean I've sat at the bedside of young mothers taking their last breath. Why not me? Why them? Stupid questions that humans will never answer.

"You have leukemia" the doctor said.

"For the glory of God" I said.

 Just being honest. That's what I said. I mean, who knows what you will say when cancer rings your doorbell and death's door moves next door. You don't plan a speech for this moment  because you know it won't happen to you. But it did to me.

And what did my husband say? He held me and said "I'd do anything to trade places with you. I wish it was me and not you."  Bless this man who loves me as Christ loves the church.

True love.

How blessed I am to know the love of a man wishing he could die in my place 
and the love of a Savior who did.

"Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her . . ." Ephesians 5:25

May you all know the great love of our Savior Who holds you when life falls apart.

PS: Praising God for "targeted therapy" which targeted the cancer cells, destroyed them, and continues to stop their progression, while leaving my healthy cells alone. So, no hair loss, no sickness, no side effects. I have full energy and look forward to many years of service to my Lord Jesus Christ and to my dear husband.

PPS: I wasn't going to share my story, but, as my first response was "For the glory of God," I realized, if I don't tell people, how will God be glorified?

Splashes of Serenity, in the midst of cancer. That's what God does. He never leaves. He never forsakes.



  1. Short message with quite the punch. Simply beautiful! I could feel the peace flowing through me as I read. Thank you.

  2. We are blessed with Godly husbands, Jane. Not all can make that statement. Hugs to you! Thanks for commenting.

  3. Love this, dear Elaine, and love you!! Praise God for providing just the right drug therapy at just the right time. ((HUGS))

  4. Praise Him, indeed. Keeping my eyes on Jesus and His miraculous moment-by-moment care. Always enough and perfect. Thanks for your sweet prayer support for me, Elaine Marie!

  5. A great testimony for all who face those dark days. The Sun can give light right into the soul.

  6. Amen! Cancer opens eyes to see what the rest of the world misses. The beauty of each moment. A flower. Love. I am blessed. Love you, my friend.

  7. I'm sorry to hear of this hardship, and I'll be praying for you both. You and Dan are such a blessing and inspiration to Heidi and I.

  8. God is good. His Presence and Peace are undeniable. Thank you for your prayers, Jordan and Heidi. Treasure each day God gives you together.

  9. We are praying for you in Mostar. May God indeed be glorified through this challenging time.

  10. Thank you Jennifer and all my friends in Mostar. I have peace that passes all understanding. Jesus holds me and He will never let me go. Please give my love to my beautiful friends in Bosnia Herzegovina.

  11. I will be praying.

  12. Thank you Rachel. I think this is harder on Dan than it is on me. We are both doing great though, keeping our eyes on Jesus. Hugs to you and Ron.


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