A Husband Needs a Wife — Not a Boss

A wife fulfills a role no one else can fill. She is her husband’s wife. Curious, I looked up “wife” in Roget’s Thesaurus and learned a wife is a “spouse, mate, bride, partner, companion, better half, consort, squaw, soul mate, ‘… crown to her husband.’ — Bible, and [oh my] ‘A former sweetheart.’ — Henry Louis Mencken.”

We do need to be careful not to be our hubby’s former sweethearts, don’t we? It’s easy to do. Some days we act less like a wife or a sweetheart and more like a boss. Perhaps we can learn from what happened to me.

My Dan came home late from a meeting that seemed more like a battle.  Physical exhaustion, weariness, and a burden of issues weighed heavy on him when he walked in the front door.  Poor Dan. His “former sweetheart” didn’t greet him with a kiss or a hug, a cold drink or a coffee. Instead, I pummeled him with questions. Our family  room filled with more tension than the board room he just left.

“What happened? Who said what?” I interrogated.

My sweet man didn’t answer.

Yearning for my embrace and hungering for my love, he held me close and whispered, “Elaine, I don’t need you to be my boss. I need you to be my wife.”

Lesson learned!

Our marriage changed that night. No longer would I greet my man with a barrage of discouraging questions, a list of complaints about my day, or a honey do list.  Now when Dan walks in the door he is loved, kissed, held, edified, cherished, and adored by his wife — who is working hard not to be his boss or his “former sweetheart.”

It’s a tough world out there. We need tender homes. When your honey walks in the door, hold him and greet him with a kiss. Make your home a sanctuary of love, acceptance, and contentment.

The words of Solomon’s bride echo in my heart when she says,

“Thus I have become in his eyes like one bringing contentment.”
Song of Songs 8:10 (NIV).

That’s my prayer and goal as a wife. Will you make it yours?

This story (and many other stories that will change your marriage) is written in my book, We All Married Idiots, www.amazon.com/We-All-Married-Idiots-Marriage/dp/0984765522/ or purchase on this website. Thank you.

May God Splash Serenity on your marriage!