Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Take a Stand and Stop Mocking Marriage

Ha! Do you find the calendar page funny? Did the thought for the day bring a chuckle? 

Since when and why did mocking marriage become a comedy instead of a tragedy?

My heart breaks for marriages.

My mother cautioned me against bad talk. "What you say is what you are." She warned. Her words ring true more so for married couples. Remember, you and your spouse are one flesh. The two of you became one on your wedding day. So, if you can't say anything nice about your spouse, well, you can't say anything nice about you.

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 
and the two will become one flesh. 
So they are no longer two, but one." Mark 10: 7-8

I'm done listening or reading or partaking in the abuse of marriage. I want to stand for marriage, not mock the sacred union created by God.

Will you stand with me?

Will you stand and walk away from any talk where a spouse is belittled?

Will you take a stand and not partake in the laughter of any conversation mocking marriage?

Will you stand and turn off media when the "entertainment" ridicules marriage?

Will you stand up for your spouse and focus on the good instead of remembering the bad?

Will you stand by your beloved and not give a wink or a flirtatious nod to another?

Will you stand alone and refuse to attend an after-hours office gathering without your spouse?

Will you stand firm in your commitment to your marriage?

Will you stand in a decision to never say a disrespectful word or think a disrespectful thought about your husband/wife?

Will you stand and promise to pray daily for your spouse and your marriage?

Will you stand to always cherish and never chastise your mate?

I sound like a radical.
 Well, I guess I am. 
  I see a radical shift against marriage in these days.

So, I stand to radically change the world's view of the sacred blessing God gave when He gave us the gift of marriage. 

Will you stand with me?

This Thanksgiving, let us all stand for marriage and family. Take a stand and thank God for every dear trait your loved ones display. Share your "I love you because . . . " with each person around your table and have a Blessed Thanksgiving!

Will you take a stand for marriage? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thanks.

Our lives know splashes of serenity when our words say blessings to those we marry,

Thursday, November 9, 2017

Our Military Love With a Great Love. Thank YOU!!!

I watch and remember the endless stress of military life.

Packing, unpacking, moving every two years.

Praying the house you loved, decorated, and created memories in will sell and a new home in a strange town will somehow fit your family, your furniture, and your curtains.

Leaving a church where your children run into the nursery to join friends and known child care, where you've grown closer to God through treasured Bible study friends and the teachings of a loved pastor.

Endless goodbyes to kindred spirit friends who walked and talked you through troubled days and joyous celebrations.

Collecting medical records from the doctors you trust who held your hand and your heart during uncertain days.

Moving to the unknown place, searching for the perfect church, trusting your child to strangers, finding competent doctors, and the grocery store. And please God, I need a friend. Please send a friend.

The fear and dread that never goes away. Settled in your heart and residing in your brain is the fact that any day may be the one your spouse comes home with orders to deploy.

Military life is hard.  So why do they serve? A friend gave me the answer many years ago when my Dan served in the Navy.

We lived in Navy housing with our lawn joining the backyards of several Navy families forming a massive playground. We all had young children and our afternoons were lived together with our littles running delighted in the grass expanse.

The Navy family living behind us had five children including a newborn. The husband was a computer guy serving on a submarine. He was gone six months every year. Plunged into the ocean, he left his family and sacrificed six months of never-to-be-had good night kisses, first steps, and love.

Yet, I never heard a complaint. His wife served her man and her family with joy. This day, the day we met her new-born daughter, (whose nursery was in a closet, because Navy housing was too small for five children) was a cold, windy November.

"When is your husband leaving again?" we asked.

"He'll be gone before Christmas." she answered with resolve and not a twinge of regret.

I couldn't help myself. The questions, doubting, and concern tumbled from my tongue.

"Why does he do it? Your husband could get a job in the secular world that pays a lot of money. He wouldn't have to leave you, you wouldn't have to move again. Why don't you get out of the Navy?"

"Because we love our country. 
That's why. 
We love our country."

Her answer pierced my soul and changed the way I felt about the USA and those who sacrifice their lives and their families in military service.

Thank you Veterans and your families for loving our country and its citizens with the greatest of love. Thank you for loving our freedoms enough to sacrifice and die for the United States of America. I salute you today! You are the best of the best and I thank God for you.

"There is no greater love 
than to lay down one's life for one's friends."
John 15:13 (NLT)

Because of our military, we are splashed every day with serenity, and we don't even realize it. Realize it today, and thank a veteran!


Tuesday, October 24, 2017

Caring for the Caregiver Retreat

"Sink or Swim (S.O.S.): Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Life and Ten Things You Can" is the title of my keynote at the Caring for the Caregiver Retreat. If you are a caregiver, you are invited to attend this free one-day retreat.Wow! I'd love to see you there. See more information in the poster below:

Please pray for me as the key-note speaker. May my heart touch the hearts of these dear people who sacrifice time and money and emotions to care for their loved ones. May God be a Splash of Serenity in their lives not just today, but as they go forward refreshed.


Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Mentoring in the Marriage Season Guest Blog

In her powerful book Mentoring for All Seasons,
 Janet Thompson writes of the value of mentoring through all seasons of life, 
including the marriage season. 
I was thrilled to learn Janet recommends my book 
We All Married Idiots as a resource for mentoring marriages.
 If you desire your life and marriage to grow into the likeness of Christ, 
give Mentoring for All Seasons a read. 
Thank you Janet Thompson for writing life-changing books
 and agreeing to share words straight from your heart.

Learn from Janet Thompson's wisdom as a mentor and a mentee:

"That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.—Genesis 2:24

As women, we’re continually coming out of one life season and going into the next. You may have experienced the blessing of having a mentor in the changing seasons of your life, or long for a mentor. Those with experience in a season can reach out and offer counsel, support, prayer, and God’s wisdom. Mentoring is that easy.

Some women have had the blessing of the same mentor from newlywed years to seasoned married years, and others have found mentors for specific phases of the marriage season.

Newlywed to 50+ Years Mentoring

Maybe you looked at this heading and thought: Needs are different for newlyweds than couples married twenty-five or fifty years. True. The specific details will differ, but the basic truths keeping a marriage on solid ground remain the same regardless of years together.

The marriage season covers a wide spectrum, but the principles of mentoring remain the same because God’s Word regarding marriage, communication, finances, family . . . never changes . . . and God’s Word is the foundation for every mentoring relationship, which is always two way.

I once heard a mentor say her mentee was a newlywed, and since she herself had been married twenty-five years, she expected to be sharing tips about married life with her mentee. But with a wink, she said the mentee taught her a few things about putting a “kick” back into her own marriage!

Marital Problems

Marriage is between two imperfect people, who will always disappoint and disillusion each other unless they keep perfect Jesus at the center of their relationship. That might sound like a bold statement, and certainly many Christian marriages fail, probably because they didn’t keep Jesus at the center of every decision, discussion, and disagreement.

Many issues subject a couple to divisive onslaughts attacking a marriage: finances, parenting, jealousy, in-laws, personalities, loneliness, illness, outside attractions, work . . . daily life. Statistics of crumbling marriages—even among Christians—indicate Satan is winning the spiritual battle in many homes because couples haven’t armed themselves with the only effective offensive weapon—the sword of the Spirit—the Word of God.

How many marriages might elude divorce if spouses had mentors praying for and with them, teaching them how to study their Bibles daily, and showing them how to put God back on the throne in their marriage and family?

Mentoring for All Seasons

In Mentoring for All Seasons: Sharing Life Experiences and God’s Faithfulness, sixty-five women share their mentor or mentee testimonies, along with my own personal experiences, helpful tips for mentors and mentees will guide women in how to connect and nurture each other in mentoring relationships, as a mentor or a mentee from tweens to twilight years. There are Scriptures for each season to help guide the discussion to God’s Word.

Mentoring for all Seasons is a reference, application, and coaching tool for a mentor or mentee traversing life’s journey together as Titus 2:3-5 instructs us to do.

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Mentors don’t have all the answers, but God does!

Excerpts from Mentoring for All Seasons used with permission of Leafwood Publishers.

Janet Thompson is an international speaker, freelance editor, and award-winning author of nineteen books including her latest, Mentoring for All Seasons: Sharing Life Experiences and God’s Faithfulness, available at all Christian bookstores, online book stores, Amazon, and signed by Janet at her website store, where you can see more of her books.

She is also the founder of Woman to Woman Mentoring and About His Work Ministries. Janet and her husband Dave relocated their empty nest from Southern California to the rural mountains of Idaho, where Janet writes and they love watching the deer frolic in their yard.

Sign up for Janet’s Monday Morning Blog and online newsletter at You can also visit Janet at:
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Thanks for being my guest blogger, Janet. 
Mentoring and being mentored both bring splashes of serenity to our souls! 
Enjoy your mentoring journey and buy Janet's book!


Saturday, September 30, 2017

A Silly Happy Birthday Poem to Me!

I love my birthday. Why? Because I love life. Every birthday represents another year to live and love and enjoy this beautiful world God created. I've always been a girl with a lust for life, and these baby pics made me laugh. From day one I've been on the go!

This year I love living even more than past years. Cancer gives a new appreciation for every day. You celebrate your birthdays big time! So, as is my custom, this writer who is not a poet wrote a birthday poem. Enjoy!

Oh what joy! I am just fine
Celebrating birthday number 69.

A year ago I did not know
If 68 would end my show.

But God Almighty, the Great Divine,
Smiled and said "Happy Birthday child of mine!

Your days are ordained—all in a line.
More birthdays for you is My Grand Design."

So live well my friends and never whine.
Celebrate your birthdays—dance and dine!

Each birthday is a treasure to live—not resign.
You'll be happy forever if you cling to the Vine.

I look forward to laughs aplenty
As God blesses my way to number 70.

Happy Birthday to me, Miss Splashes of Serenity!


Monday, September 11, 2017

Thankful For the Anniversary We Didn't Expect to Celebrate!

A year ago we didn't expect to celebrate our 47th Wedding Anniversary. Doctors gave us a grim cancer diagnosis.  "Rapid progression, unresponsive to treatment, low survivability" concluded a mountain of test results.

To our surprise, the peace and presence of God, which other cancer patients attest to, filled us with praise, thankfulness, and humor. We determined to laugh, celebrate each day, and treasure the time we had left together.

If my days were short, I wanted them filled with joy, not sadness.

 Oncologists urged us to go away and have fun. I do what my doctor orders.  Last September we headed for Hilton Head to celebrate our 46th wedding anniversary. For two glorious weeks we enjoyed our love, the blessings of being alive, the treasure of time together.

In December my doctors were as excited as we were to learn a new drug had been approved for my type of cancer.  Take 3 pills a day  (one in the Name of the Father, one in the Name of the Son, and one in the Name of the Holy Spirit) and your cancer progression may stop.

And stop it did! 

Today my blood counts are normal.
 I feel better and have more energy than I have in years. 
Other than my cute chemo curls, there are no side effects.

This week Dan and I celebrate an anniversary we didn't expect to see—our 47th! We're returning to the same Hilton Head condo with thanks to God for the sweet gifts of marriage and time.

Looking back,

 I realize this last year has been the best year of our married life. 


Because when we face the death of a spouse, priorities and perspectives change.

We treasure every moment. 

Idiosyncrasies are funny, not irritating.

We dance and sing together. 

We hold hands.

We sit together on the couch. 

We touch—often. 

We do today all the things we talked about, but never made time to do. 

We kiss—over and over. 

We tell each other "I love you"—constantly. 

We stop arguing. 

We treat each other with kindness. 

We let each other have his/her way. 

We go to bed together. 

We look into each other's eyes when we  speak and when we are quiet. 

We smile. 

We laugh. 

We love deeply. 

Cancer was a gift to us. A wake-up call to the treasure of love, life, and time. Don't wait for a crisis in your marriage to begin living love deeply.

"Above all, love each other deeply . . . . " 1 Peter 4:8

Praying for marriages as we splash in the Atlantic Ocean! 

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