Monday, March 16, 2020

A Prayer of Hope for Those Fighting Fear of Cancer, Coronavirus, and other Crises.

Cancer, Coronavirus, crises of all kinds cause us to fear and worry. I understand those feelings.

Today I received word from a cancer patient that the prayer in the second chapter of my book, Praise the Lord and Pass the Chemo: A Hopeful Response to a Hard Reality, blessed her as she began chemotherapy. May this prayer of my heart bless yours: 

"Heavenly Father, cancer,
 [coronavirus or any other crisis] 
is not a battle I ever wanted to fight. 
Thank You, Lord Jesus, for fighting for me.
 In the deep dark I cling to You as 
You go off to war on my behalf. 
Help me to rest in You and to be still when 
my mind races with worry and fear. 
Enable me to laugh when I feel like crying. 
Give me joy in this journey. 
May I be still and know, really know, and feel, and
be totally aware that 
You are God, 
and I am not. 
I place my mind, my heart, my cancer,
[this coronavirus, this crisis], 
my family, and my soul in You and 
I rest in the all-powerful, mighty, strong, able name of Jesus. 

"The Lord will fight for you; 
you need only to be still."

Exodus 14:14
May our Lord splash our days with serenity and peace.


Thursday, March 5, 2020

Elaine Shares Her Story as a Guest at the Extraordinary Faith Summit


What a blessing to share my faith, my writing, my marriage, and my cancer journey with Patricia Durgin at the Extraordinary Faith Summit. Thank you, Patricia, for this opportunity to show the world the power of Christ in a life. You can see and listen to the interview right here:

May these words bring a splash of serenity to your day!

Saturday, February 29, 2020

2020 Extraordinary Faith Summit

Has your marriage hit the wall? Ours did. I'm excited to share how an extraordinary God kept us running our marriage race through the obstacles and through the wall to glorify Him with our marriage. #Married50Years this year! #SoGladWeStayed 

You won't want to miss this two week conference of extraordinary speakers and writers who trusted an extraordinary God to pull them through extraordinary circumstances (beginning March 2, 2020). My segment is live on Wednesday, March 4, 2020 at 3:00 EST. Details below.

Here's a Sneak Peek at The 2020 Extraordinary Faith Summit hosted by Marketers On A Mission​. It begins Monday, March 2nd / ends on Friday, March 13th. (Click image to enlarge.)

Please welcome our guests Dr. Michelle BengtsonLinda Evans ShepherdElaine W. MillerShonda Savage WhitworthTwila Belk - The Gotta Tell Somebody GalMelinda V InmanEvelyn Kraemer MannEva Marie Everson's Southern NovelsKatherine B. Barner, and Lynne Hartke, Author.

You can enroll (it's FREE!) and be encouraged by these sessions all year long! Details at:
 — with Michelle BengtsonMelinda InmanLinda Evans ShepherdElaine W. MillerShonda Savage WhitworthLynne Hartke and Twila Belk.


Friday, February 14, 2020

Ten Ways To Put More Love and More Life Into Your Love Life

My book's title, We All Married Idiots, grabs people's attention. But the meat of this book is found in the sub-title, Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can.

Using the chapter titles of the Ten Things You Can, I hope you enjoy my spin on the ten ways you can put more love and more life into your love life. Have fun!

1. Loosen Up! Ask someone what first attracted them to their spouse and the answer may be, "Their smile." So loosen up! Laugh! Smile! Nothing says "Kiss me!" more than a happy face.

2. Strip Down! Oops! Did I say that? No. God did. In Hebrews 12:1 (NLT) He says,
 ". . . let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up."
We need to strip ourselves of sin that makes us unattractive to God and to our lovers. Sins like grumbling, lust, anger . . . all sin; you name it, keeps our bedrooms from being the happy place God intended.

3. Let Go! Thoughts of  laundry to do, Billy's homework isn't done, what should I make for dinner, problems at the office, all can occupy our minds during love making.  Don't bring your "to do" list to the bedroom. I guarantee while making love, you won't be able to do any of it. So, let go of these thoughts, concentrate on your lover, and enjoy!

4. Hold On! Your honey wants to get frisky, but your honey's character flaws turn you off. No one is perfect. Don't let thoughts of your sweetheart's failures enter your mind while making love. This is the time to hold on to the good and remember all the wonderful traits you love about your spouse.

5. Settle Down! Angry? Well, settle down. Anger has no place in your marriage bed.  Sexual abstinence will not solve your marital difficulties. Settle anger outside the bedroom walls because your bedroom is reserved as your play ground not your boxing ring.

6. Make Nice! Making nice is foreplay for the night ahead. No one wants to make love with a mate who makes mean. Remember, your lover desires to be treasured, not trampled.

7. Cheer On! If you want an example of cheering on your lover during lovemaking, read Solomon's Song of Songs. Wow! For example, "How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. How handsome you are, my lover! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant." Song of Songs 1: 15-16. Words of affection and affirmation do much to cheer your honey on toward sexual pleasure.

8. Sit Tight! There really are times your beloved has a headache. Understanding and treating your love  tenderly during "headache" days will reap future rewards in your love life. Sit tight, be patient, and wait for a better day.

9. Give up! There will be days you won't desire your spouse, but your spouse desires you. I suggest you give up and ask God to give you passion for your husband or wife.  God says, "Husbands and wives should satisfy each other's sexual needs . . . Don't withhold yourselves from each other unless you agree to do so for a set time to devote yourselves to prayer. Then you should get back together. . . " 1 Corinthians 7: 3, 5. Prayer is an amazing power God gives to us. As we pray and invite God into our bedroom, asking The Almighty to help us respond to our lover's desires, we may be shocked at His answer. Prayer before and during lovemaking is the best foreplay of all. God wants to bless your marriage bed. He really does! Just ask Him.

10. Look up! The sparks aren't flying. There's no desire at all. Now what should you do? Look up! Ask God to help you and your beloved enjoy sexual intimacy as He planned for a husband and a wife. Loosen up, strip down, let go, hold on, settle down, make nice, cheer on, sit tight, give up, and look up. I suspect God will give you a marriage relationship better than you ever asked or imagined.

I have a passion for marriages, which is why I love promoting my book, We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can. Available wherever books are sold and on Amazon at

Splashes of Serenity and joy prayed for you and your beloved!

Happy Valentine's Day!


Tuesday, December 31, 2019

Self-discipline — My Word for 2020

Self-discipline. At age 71, I should have this word nailed. I do not. Cancer was my wake-up-to-reality moment that life is short and could end at any time. Our days, hours, minutes, and seconds are counting down. 

Regrets. I don't want any. I remember thinking, I don't want to be 85 and wish I had written a book. So, I disciplined myself. I chose to, and sometimes forced myself to, sit, write, edit, and rewrite. Discipline is good for me, for my family, and for the Kingdom of God. Discipline brings happiness, productivity, health, and glory to God. So why don't I do it? Because satan tempts me to follow his spirit and not the Spirit of God. As I discipline myself to say no to the devil and yes to the Lord, I will live a powerful, loving, and disciplined life.

"For the Spirit God gives us 
does not make us timid,
 but gives us 
love, and 
2 Timothy 1:7

God has given me the spirit of power, love, and self-discipline. I have it. It's mine! In 2020, I will seize that power and determine to live a more disciplined life. With God's power I will make good use of every minute of every day. Will you join me as I choose self-discipline in 2020?

I am asking God to reveal areas in my life where I need discipline. This list may grow, but as of today, here are my thoughts:

Discipline time for fun. I can be so work-obsessed and to-do list driven, that I neglect fun and relaxation. When I play hard and laugh loud, my head clears and I often hear God's whisper of approval. Solitary walks bring a communion with God I rarely sense at my computer desk. Fun helps me sleep better, love deeper, and live fuller. Fun and laughter are good medicines that cleanse my soul, so I will discipline myself to prioritize fun.

Discipline my eating. Oh, what I lose (years, health, energy,) thinking I am enjoying the gluttony. The price is too high and I must resist. Why, oh why, haven't I conquered my over-zealous love for food? Please Lord, I don't want to be a food snob or a diet guru. I enjoy the bounty you set before me. But, give me power to eat slowly, in moderation, for maximum enjoyment and health.

Discipline my eyes. I want the hours back that I've wasted watching television commercials, let alone less-than-stellar and non-affirming television shows. I guarantee on my death bed, I won't be saying,"I wish I had watched that TV show." Give me courage to get off the couch and use my eyes to read books and take on activities that glorify You.

Discipline my tongue. Oh the words I wish I could put back into my mouth and erase from the minds of the people I've hurt with words. With God's power I will grab hold of my tongue before I wag it. Use my tongue, Lord, as an instrument to edify and not to condemn or gossip or destroy.

Discipline my attitude. A day spent grumpy is a day I did not live. The day is wasted and gone and can never be retrieved. Life is too short for a negative attitude. Remind me of this, Holy Spirit, whenever I tend to go low.

Discipline my mind. I don't want to fritter my day thinking ungodly thoughts. There is no time for such wasted foolishness as gossip and worry and course joking.

Discipline my devotional life. My desire is to be all I can be for Christ. I don't want to go into old age or to Heaven never realizing all that Christ had for me spiritually. There's always room for deeper Bible study and prayer.

Discipline my time. Consecrate each day for the glory of God to do what God has me to do each hour. Visit a neighbor. Spend time with grandchildren. Go on a date with Dan. Clean the house. Write another book. Spend the day in prayer. All Godly endeavors take time. God gives me the time He planned for me as I trust in Him, His power, and His love.

". . . be hospitable, 
one who loves what is good, 
who is self-controlled, 
holy, and 
Titus 1:8

This is my prayer for 2020. 

Do you have a word for 2020? Please share other ways we can live more disciplined lives. I covet your thoughts.

Blessings for a New Year and new decade filled with splashes of serenity,


Thursday, December 12, 2019

The Merry Miller Moments of 2019

In a moment, my life changed. 
My eyes opened! My heart burst! Joy filled me! 
In a moment, a cancer diagnosis revealed Christ in ways I've never known as 
my eyes, my heart, and my joy 
focused on the eternal and not the earthly, 
on the hope of Heaven and not the heaviness of this world. 

Dan and I rejoice in God's healing and in the fruit of cancer research, because 
in a few months of moments 
my prognosis went from terminal to terrific.  

God uses these moments to teach me lessons I am thrilled to share with audiences. 
Doors open to minister to and pray with cancer patients —
 opportunities  I never wanted or planned for,
 but I am honored to own. 

This Christmas I reflect on the moments of life and pray none of us ever miss the times God planned for us.

Dan and I treasure the moments of our marriage.  
Because of cancer, now, even more so. 
Summers in the Adirondacks create moments with our children and grandchildren. 
A 49th Anniversary trip retracing our honeymoon in Maine created 
wonderful moments and memories of years gone by and hopes of years to come. 

We enjoyed a momentous time in North Carolina with all of Elaine's siblings 
(some of whom have not been together for five years). 
Don't wait for those moments to happen. 
Make them happen now!

Our children fill us with moments of joy and fun. We are blessed that Joanna and Bob and Elizabeth and Joe with ten of our thirteen grandchildren live close by. 

We enjoyed the moments with all the Price's 
watching Ryan's baseball team, coached by Bob,
 win the District Little League championship.

Sailor Noble blessed the Sliwa family and ours with his newborn love and smiles.
 Elizabeth and Joe and their nine children have a quiver filled with moments!  

 Those special moments when big brother Connor takes leave from the Marine Corps
 to meet his baby brother.

Sam and Katie, Lily and Jack continue serving our country in Alabama. 
Sam was promoted to Lt. Colonel with the US Air Force JAG Corp. 
A proud moment for us to witness.

Seize moments this Christmas to ponder 
God's great love for you, 
the blessings of being alive, 
the treasure of family and friends,
 Christ's birth, 
and the hope of eternal life for those who believe.  

Pray and let Christ change your life. 
It will only take a moment.

"Today . . . a Savior has been born to you; He is the Messiah, the Lord."

Luke 2:11

Merry Christmas from the merry Millers!


Tuesday, November 5, 2019

What Every Mother With Cancer Needs to Know

Oh dear cancer mom, how my heart aches for you. I know the feelings, the fears, the thoughts that go through your mind and rip at your heart. Whether stage 1 or stage 4, questions we can't answer loom large.

How will my cancer and my possible death affect my child? 

 What will happen to my child when I am gone? 

Will my precious ones make it through the pain?  

Fears for our children are stronger than fears for ourselves. In the uncertainty of the unknown, we must cling to the promises of God. Promises not only to us, but promises to our children as well.

"The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you;
He will never leave you nor forsake you.
Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."
Deuteronomy 31:8 (NIV)

God is with us and God is with our children. He promises. He will neither leave nor forsake our loved ones.

God doesn't take us and then leave our children alone. He stays. I've seen God's Presence in the lives of children whose mothers died young. Angels seem to encircle them in human and divine form giving needed care and love. Of course mom is missed, but the family survives and is all right because God watches over them. His Presence is sensed and embraced.
"For He will command His angels concerning you 
to guard you in all your ways;" 
Psalm 91:11 (NIV)

Yesterday I was blessed to read a son's birthday wish to his mother only months after her cancer death. Derek West's words touched my heart and I'm sure his mother, Corinna Parker Walkowiak, smiled big watching God reveal the Hope of Heaven to her son.

"Happy Birthday, Mom.
 It would have been your 48th here but 
it's your first in Heaven.
 I remember last year having a strong urge to make you a cake, 
even though I hadn't ever made one for your birthday before.
 At the time, I thought it was just me getting older and
 feeling the need to take care of those things on my loved ones' birthdays, 
but in the back of my mind I wondered 
what things might be like this year with your cancer.

When you first died
 I couldn't think much about you being in heaven because
 all I could feel was that you weren't here anymore. 
Thankfully, over the last month or so 
the hope of heaven has been revealed a little clearer and 
I can actually believe today is the best birthday you've ever had.

I miss you so much and 
wish I could make you another cake. 
See your low-key love being the center of attention 
while asking everyone else about how they're doing. 
Enjoy the warmth and ease of being around you.

But it's good knowing you're home.
 Soaking in the greatest celebration everyday. 
Happy Birthday, Mom.
I love you."

Thank you Derek West for sharing your birthday wishes with us. What a tribute to your wonderful mom. Corinna Parker Walkowiak who was indeed special. A healthy woman with a giving heart, she was first diagnosed when she volunteered to be tested as a potential liver donor. Corinna went to Heaven April 25, 2019, age 47. 

May we all have splashes of serenity and peace knowing that God is with us. He won't forsake us and He won't forsake our families.