Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Christians and Sex

Not a fan of "The View," but I turned it on this morning (while ironing) to hear Whoppi say some psychologist has decided atheists have better sex than Christians. The conversation deteriorated from there.

I disagree with this psychologist, but if he or she is right, then I am sad that the world view of sex has entered the Christian bedroom.

Hollywood did not invent sex. God did.

Hear what God says: "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again...." 1 Cor 7:3-6 (NIV)

Here the apostle Paul instructs married couples to pray together after making love. Then after prayer, go back to making love!

Woo Hoo, God! His intent is clear. Intimacy with our spouse is a physical and a spiritual blessing from Him. One that an atheist knows little about.

What are your thoughts?

Portions of this blog were taken from my book, Splashes of Serenity: Bathtime Reflections for Drained Wives. Ten percent of this book deals with sexual intimacy. It's obviously a Hot Topic!

May there be Splashes of Serenity in your marriage today!



  1. Oh pfft. That is the most ridiculous load of pop-psychology I've ever heard. I wonder who s/he interviewed to come to that conclusion?

    For decades, psychologists and researchers have been saying that married people have the best and most frequent sex.

    Unfortunately, some churches do promote a shame culture when it comes to sex. Certain positions, certain acts, are considered taboo. I call bunk.

    Within a marriage relationship, man and woman are called to love one another. The man is admonished to love his wife "as he loves himself". If that relationship is carried out the way God means it to, that would mean that each spouse would respect and honor each others feelings and take pleasure in giving pleasure to each other. Sex should be an exploration, a mutual delight. It should be fun, and that, my dear Sister, is how we honor the Lord's purpose!

    The Bible never says that God doesn't approve of sex- if He did, why would He make it so much fun?? He simply sets boundaries around this beautiful gift so that we might enjoy it fully.

    Thanks for airing such a touchy issue. It's about time we took our bedrooms back and enjoyed the gift God has given us in marital intimacy.

    Rejoicing in the day,

  2. Elaine,

    A beautiful and intimate look at sex. My mouth dropped as I read the statements made on The View ~ I pray enough Christians respond to the false message shared. Your blog is one step in the right direction to save the beauty and blessing of sexual intimacy with our spouse.

    Go Elaine!

    :) Lisa

  3. Elaine - I completely agree! Those who oppose God can not even begin to understand the blessings God will rain down on you as His child! As Christians, it doesn't take long after accepting Christ to understand the basic principle that when you do things according to the will of God and in the pattern He established, the outcome will be blessed beyond imagination! Thank you for sharing!!! Much love and blessings... Shannon

  4. I've come to not even like the word "sex" because of how the world has corrupted it. The true Eros love that God created and designed for us to enjoy in the context of our marriages and as a spiritual act of oneness is NOTHING like the sex the world takes part in. They aren't even the same thing. Quite frankly, the term "Christian" is getting used quite loosely too if you ask me, hence the inaccurate conclusion by this psychologist. I had a whole month-ful of stuff to share on the topic of sex (with Elaine's help!) over on my blog in July.

  5. I'm afraid I disagree with the passage that u said about having sex then stop and pray then have sex again. You left out some words there. You are only to stop having sex for a time for fasting. You seperate from intimacy until you're through fasting then resume normal love making as usual.

  6. Yea, Mary! Let Christians take back the bedroom. Love that comment.

    Danielle, The word "sex" is not used in the Bible when referring to marital intimacy. You are right. I don't like the term either.

    All of you, if you had heard the rest of the conversation, you would have known why I posted this blog. It was sick and I can't and won't write it for the world to see.

    Annonymous, I quoted exactly from the NIV and left out no words in my quote. My simple translation of make love, pray, and make love again was to make a point. The point being that God approves and blesses the sexual union of husband and wife. The world thinks Christians are missing something when the reverse is true.

    Thanks for all of your comments!

  7. I am over at my friend's house and reading your blog post and both of us are laughing out loud at your frankness. Love it!! Thank you for being bold and speaking all of God's truth not just the portions that are comfortable and easy!!!! :O)

  8. Diane, you are a hoot! Lots of people are sharing this with friends. This post has my most hits for a single day. So why wouldn't this scripture be comfortable and easy? Sounds straight forward to me. LOL! I'm waiting for a man to comment. Charlie?


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