"Never Ever Be The Same — A New You Starts Today" excerpt and Book Give Away!

NEVER EVER BE THE SAME — A New You Starts Today is the promising title of a book released this week. If you comment below, you'll enter a give away to receive a free copy sent to your home. 

Contest ends Midnight, January 24, 2015. Thank you to all who commented below. The winner of Never Ever Be The Same  is Stephanie Nickel!!! Enjoy!!!

 Authors and husband/wife team Kathy Collard Miller and Larry Miller aren't related to me, except we share the same passion for Christ and for marriages that glorify Him. We also share similar marriage stories each having almost thrown away a marriage God wanted to bless. When God saves your life and your marriage, it's worth writing about. Thank you, Kathy and Larry, for writing your stories so others will Never Ever Be The Same.

Be blessed by the  following excerpt from Never Ever Be the Same, and  ask yourself, do you love or do you love well?

Do We Love Or Do We Love Well?

by Kathy Collard Miller and Larry Miller

Do we love others or do we love others well? All of us love imperfectly. But loving “well” means we love them for their benefit rather than what it does for us or how it makes us look. We're not talking about perfection but we are talking about desiring another's good. We've all been around someone who is supposedly expressing love for us but it is disingenuous because it is really about them looking good or getting what they want. We don't really feel encouraged or cared for.

I, Larry, may be wrong but I sensed a lack of loving well when I received an e-mail from a man who was considering buying one of our marriage books for his wife. He wrote, “I choose to love my unsaved wife as I love myself. She has a lot of issues and it's my hope, prayer and confidence that my example, the light that I allow to shine in our home, and the love that I extend to her, just as God has done for me, will be a part of what God uses to save her.”

I didn't have any kind of relationship with this man to be able to inquire into his motives. But I could sense that he might easily come across to his wife as thinking himself better than her. I wondered if he communicated a belief that he never needed to repent of anything and that she should be grateful for the way he puts up with her.

And I also wondered, “What is his motive for needing to explain?” Does he speak to others with this same kind of superior attitude? If his wife shares with him the superior attitudes she senses, how would he respond? I had a deep sense that he wasn't loving her well. Unfortunately, he had concluded he loved her so well that he was amazed his sparkling and pristine example of Christ's love hadn't compelled her to become a Christian.

Here are other common ways we do not love well:

A husband buys his wife for their anniversary (or birthday or Christmas) what he wants for himself, not what she values. He looks forward to the admiring looks from his friends when he uses the item himself.

A wife plans an elaborate surprise birthday party for her husband, but he would rather enjoy a weekend away with her. But the accolades the wife gets at the party motivates her to throw another party the next year.

We’ve all been guilty at one time or another, but we may be able to avoid this error by focusing on how God loves us well. He always responds to us for our greatest good and desires our greatest benefit. Let’s make a commitment to do the same for those we love.

How has God shown you that kind of loving “well”?

This article is excerpted from Never Ever Be the Same (Leafwood Publishers) which offers Christians hope that they can change their ungodly reactions through identifying their self-protective strategies and trusting God instead. The authors are Kathy Collard Miller and Larry Miller and includes biblical principles, insightful stories, and helpful instruction. It has individual and group discussion questions.

Kathy Collard Miller and Larry Miller are speakers and authors. They have been married 44 years and Larry is a retired police lieutenant. The Millers live in Southern California, and have two grown children and one grandson. Visit them at www.LarryAndKathy.com. Kathy blogs at www.KathyCollardMiller.com.

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