Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Changing the Tide of the Divorce Swell

It is finished. Last night one last time I proofread my new book We All Married Idiots: Three Things You Will Never Change About Your Marriage and Ten Things You Can. When the endorsements are gathered, it will go to press. I close my book confident that I am not the greatest writer, but I wrote to the best of my ability for the glory of God and in obedience to God.

Idiots—I don't like that word either.  But with the divorce rate at around 50 percent for Christians as well as non-Christians there are a lot of people walking around thinking they married idiots. They divorce and remarry and it isn't long before they smack their heads and realize, "Ugh, this person is an idiot too!"

Why did I write about idiots? We All Married Idiots was inspired years ago when I had an argument with my Dan. Frustrated and angry I thought, I must have been an idiot to marry that idiot. Forgive me Lord and readers for my sin and my humanness. If you've never thought such a thing, I salute you. Keep it up!

Why did I write about marriage? My heart breaks for broken homes and the effects divorce has on our children and our world. If this book can keep one marriage together, then my goal has been reached. If it keeps one person from running to a lawyer and turns them to God, then it is a best seller. If one couple determines to make nice instead of make mean in the middle of an argument or just day-to-day life, then their children's little eyes, little ears, and little minds will be spared pain. If this is the book that changes the tide of the divorce swell and married couples begin loving instead of loathing, then this book can change the world.

Two idiots living together equals a marriage. In my 41 years with Dan, God taught me lessons I wish I had known in the early years. So, now I share those insights with you. Enjoy, laugh, be convicted, change, stay together.

Praying marriages will know daily splashes of serenity,



  1. I hope that one day, people will stop bad mouthing marriage (yes, even I am guilty of this). A few months back, I was visiting friends and their 23 yr old son vehemently stated he didn't want to ever get married! And my son, said he understood because it was hard, but the benefits far outweighed the difficulties. He is 25 and married two plus years. And he laughed and smiled like he knew some great secret. My friend's son looked surprised, and confused, and then looked like he wondered what he was missing. It was interesting to watch. I say this because my own son has not, perhaps, had the best role models in this area of life. Yet he's found himself the sweet spot. And may he always be this sanguine about his marriage. Thea

  2. Thea, you hit my nail on the head. The way the media views marriage and the influence that has on the way we treat our spouses and then our children watching it all makes for a generation of people with distorted ideas of God's design for a marriage. It all breaks my heart and is written about in my book. So happy your son has found a good wife. That's a good thing. God says so.

    Keep looking up!
    Elaine W. Miller

  3. Elaine,

    Thank you for being an idiot! Your humaness, honesty, and compassion make you an authentic witness for Christ. I look forward to reading your newest book with my husband because I know we are BOTH idiots.

    Love you and will pray for the endorsements to come in a timely manner so the book can go to bed.

    LOL...that just cracked me up, your book is going to bed!! LOL
    Sorry, couldn't help it.

    Lisa M. Buske

  4. Elaine,

    I'm glad you are an idiot. It is because of your humaness, honesty, and compassion that people can relate to your writing and speaking. Your authenticity will transform lives, thank you for your diligence and perseverance to see this book to completion.

    I look forward to reading your newest release WITH my idiot husband so we can laugh, cry, and discuss it together.

    Thank you for the marriages you will save in the name of Jesus.

    Lisa M. Buske

  5. Lisa, I laugh too! Every night I'm tempted to post on facebook that I'm going to bed with my kindle now, but I know someone named Kindle, so that is not a good tpost. I'm looking forward to my book's release as well. Thank you for all of your support.

    Hugs, friend.


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